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Largo's Shark 00 Agent
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| Subject: Defining Masculinity Thu Apr 02, 2015 8:38 pm | |
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| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Thu Apr 02, 2015 9:48 pm | |
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Largo's Shark 00 Agent
Posts : 10588 Member Since : 2011-03-14
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Thu Apr 02, 2015 11:19 pm | |
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Staugust Universal Exports
Posts : 99 Member Since : 2014-11-06 Location : Is it safe?
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Fri Apr 03, 2015 7:30 am | |
| Watching Top Gear apparently. |
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Salomé Potential 00 Agent
Posts : 3303 Member Since : 2011-03-17
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Fri Apr 03, 2015 8:40 am | |
| I personally believe that the supposed "masculinity crisis" has been quite overstated. In spite of all the columnists/commentators who are throwing their toys out of the pram, the vast majority of positions of power are still held by men, primarily middle-aged white men. Speaking specifically about Britain, just over 20% of MPs are women. So reality is a long way removed from the idea that the male experience is not the defining one in our culture. |
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| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Fri Apr 03, 2015 10:25 am | |
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Salomé Potential 00 Agent
Posts : 3303 Member Since : 2011-03-17
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Fri Apr 03, 2015 11:01 am | |
| Not sure there is anything particularly feminist about a post that points out the limited number of women in positions of power. In a society where masculinity is supposedly threatened, that surely would not be the case.
It might just be a case of this generation of men being a more whiny bunch than their forefathers. |
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| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Fri Apr 03, 2015 1:13 pm | |
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Salomé Potential 00 Agent
Posts : 3303 Member Since : 2011-03-17
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Fri Apr 03, 2015 3:41 pm | |
| You will have to explain to me how the fact that the highest positions of power in both the political and business realm are still largely occupied by men is not relevant to a discussion about the supposed crisis that masculinity finds itself in. If the people who call the shots are still primarily men, then how can their gender find itself in any real danger of losing its power or status? And if that is indeed the case, would it not largely be a self-inflicted wound then? |
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Salomé Potential 00 Agent
Posts : 3303 Member Since : 2011-03-17
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Fri Apr 03, 2015 3:43 pm | |
| - Erica Ambler wrote:
I suppose that depends on what you define as whining. Suicide is now the single biggest cause of death in men aged 20-49 in England and Wales, with males accounting for 78 per cent of all suicides in the UK. To put that into context, female suicide rates have halved since 1981. My point was more that perhaps men of the past thrived because they spent less time complaining about their lot and more time trying to improve it? |
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Staugust Universal Exports
Posts : 99 Member Since : 2014-11-06 Location : Is it safe?
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Fri Apr 03, 2015 4:48 pm | |
| At least on a cosmetic level growing a big bushy beard or having excess "designer stubble" seems to be the current fashion for young men to show their masculinity. That and covering one's body in large and colourful tattoos. |
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Xenia93 'R'
Posts : 271 Member Since : 2013-04-17 Location : The Disco Volante
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Fri Apr 03, 2015 5:55 pm | |
| - Salomé wrote:
My point was more that perhaps men of the past thrived because they spent less time complaining about their lot and more time trying to improve it?
I think there might be something to this. I don't want to speak for Ambler, but I don't think it's a questioning male status in the world, but more the emasculation of society. Correct me if I'm way off. |
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Mr. Kiss Kiss Bang Bang 00 Agent
Posts : 8477 Member Since : 2010-05-12 Location : Strawberry Fields
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Sat Apr 04, 2015 12:49 am | |
| You can blame the feminists, you can blame poems but I'm not sure the act of defining masculinity is masculine… |
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bitchcraft Potential 00 Agent
Posts : 3372 Member Since : 2011-03-28 Location : I know........I know
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Sat Apr 04, 2015 1:13 am | |
| There is no universal definition of 'masculinity.' One woman's masculine can be another woman's neanderthal.
An alpha-male can tell me his definition and I can tell him to go fuck himself simply because I find some of his attributes to be gross. |
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Control 00 Agent
Posts : 5206 Member Since : 2010-05-13 Location : Slumber, Inc.
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Sat Apr 04, 2015 2:25 am | |
| Here's a solid definition of masculinity: |
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bitchcraft Potential 00 Agent
Posts : 3372 Member Since : 2011-03-28 Location : I know........I know
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Mon Apr 06, 2015 5:08 pm | |
| - Staugust wrote:
- At least on a cosmetic level growing a big bushy beard or having excess "designer stubble" seems to be the current fashion for young men to show their masculinity. That and covering one's body in large and colourful tattoos.
A lot of women don't like designer stubble on a man's face and chin, especially if they have sensitive inner thighs. |
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Salomé Potential 00 Agent
Posts : 3303 Member Since : 2011-03-17
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Mon Apr 06, 2015 7:44 pm | |
| - bitchcraft wrote:
- Staugust wrote:
- At least on a cosmetic level growing a big bushy beard or having excess "designer stubble" seems to be the current fashion for young men to show their masculinity. That and covering one's body in large and colourful tattoos.
A lot of women don't like designer stubble on a man's face and chin, especially if they have sensitive inner thighs. You are my hero, Dog Bond. |
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Staugust Universal Exports
Posts : 99 Member Since : 2014-11-06 Location : Is it safe?
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Mon Apr 06, 2015 8:39 pm | |
| - bitchcraft wrote:
- Staugust wrote:
- At least on a cosmetic level growing a big bushy beard or having excess "designer stubble" seems to be the current fashion for young men to show their masculinity. That and covering one's body in large and colourful tattoos.
A lot of women don't like designer stubble on a man's face and chin, especially if they have sensitive inner thighs. Well I'm glad to hear it as I shave every day. |
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| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Mon Apr 06, 2015 9:40 pm | |
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Staugust Universal Exports
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SarahN Universal Exports
Posts : 92 Member Since : 2015-03-21 Location : For it will come to pass that every braggart shall be found an ass.
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Tue Apr 07, 2015 4:48 pm | |
| Stubble is entirely subjective where sexiness is concerned. Some guys just rock it, some don't. I can appreciate a scruffy face even when I have no intention to ever let it anywhere near me. Some girls don't like it as a rule, some are more openminded on certain days. A friend of mine has a real beard fetish, but she's the only one I know who will exclusively go for that. Stubble or beards don't define masculinity to me, I tend to notice behaviour and character over superficial details.
Now, I hope I don't destroy too many illusions when I confess here that most guys who consider themselves alpha males more often than not come over as ludicrous, pathetic even. To me a guy is sexy when he doesn't act, when he's just authentic, doesn't force his overblown ego on others (that's a real turn-off). Impressed with self comes to mind there; guys can score big points when they don't take themselves or their convictions too seriously. We're all human, there's no need to pretend one has superior knowledge or experience or whatever. A definite turn-on is when a guy can admit not knowing something, or having made a mistake. When a guy is not ashamed to admit his faults along with his strong sides, that's what takes balls, that's a man in my eyes. |
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| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Tue Apr 07, 2015 9:10 pm | |
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Salomé Potential 00 Agent
Posts : 3303 Member Since : 2011-03-17
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Tue Apr 07, 2015 10:40 pm | |
| So are you saying that men are all liars at heart, Ambler? Or only when interacting with women? |
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| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Tue Apr 07, 2015 11:11 pm | |
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Salomé Potential 00 Agent
Posts : 3303 Member Since : 2011-03-17
| Subject: Re: Defining Masculinity Wed Apr 08, 2015 8:41 am | |
| - Erica Ambler wrote:
- Salomé wrote:
- So are you saying that men are all liars at heart, Ambler? Or only when interacting with women?
Not at heart, but in fact. And yes, especially with women. It's the damn biological imperative - you know, like when you used to stick socks in your training bra, Oppers. Never had any need to do that, they were already there before I was even ready for their arrival! |
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